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Every Day is A New Day

New day.. New office location.. New Seat.. So many new things happened to me before this new year comes. Newness always brings enthusiasm and excitement. Hope this New Year also comes with hand full of surprises as Every Day is a New Day indeed..!!!

12 Most Famous Love Stories of All Time

When: 31 BC Where: Rome and Egypt What’s So Special about Their Love: These two had a love so strong, war was waged against them to break them up. When Mark Antony left his wife, Octavia, for the mesmerizing Cleopatra, Octavia’s brother Octavian brought the army of Rome to destroy them. These two lovers were so entranced with each other that they committed suicide rather than be apart- the ultimate Romeo and Juliet true love story.

Mahatma`s Teachings

I like both the movies MunnaBhai MBBS and Lage Raho MunnaBhai. I dont know about the Gandhi`s political decisions but I believe in his teachings to the nation.

Universal Truth about Boys............lolz!!

Now i truly admit, Google is very very very smart......

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Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Saturday, April 9, 2011

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a nd discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

Friday, April 8, 2011

NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Marriage is like Lottery Ticket

Yeah its true guys
Whatever picture you dreamt of it is not actually available to you.

Instead you have to fit yourself in the frame presented to you
If you adjust and co-operate then everything will fell into right place automatically.

Dont panic and try it.
May be wou will win a Jack Pot in it.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Virgo - MY ZODIAC SIGN

Virgo! About Your Sign...

Virgo is the only zodiacal sign represented by a female. It is sometimes thought of as a potentially creative girl, delicately lovely; sometimes as a somewhat older woman, intelligent but rather pedantic and spinsterish. The latter impression is sometimes confirmed by the Virgoan preciseness, refinement, fastidious love of cleanliness, hygiene and good order, conventionality and aristocratic attitude of reserve. They are usually observant, shrewd, critically inclined, judicious, patient, practical supporters of the status quo, and tend toward conservatism in all departments of life. On the surface they are emotionally cold, and sometimes this goes deeper, for their habit of suppressing their natural kindness may in the end cause it to atrophy, with the result that they shrink from committing themselves to friendship, make few relationships, and those they do make they are careful to keep superficial.

But the outward lack of feeling may, in some individuals born under this sign, conceal too much emotion, to which they are afraid of giving way because they do not trust others, nor do they have confidence in themselves and their judgments. This is because they are conscious of certain shortcomings in themselves of worldliness, of practicality, of sophistication and of outgoingness. So they bring the art of self concealment to a high pitch, hiding their apprehensiveness about themselves and their often considerable sympathy with other people under a mantle of matter-of-factness and undemonstrative, quiet reserve. They are still waters that run deep. Yet in their unassuming, outwardly cheerful and agreeable fashion, they can be sensible, discreet, well spoken, wise and witty, with a good understanding of other people's problems which they can tackle with a practicality not always evident in their own personal relationships.

Both sexes have considerable charm and dignity, which make some male Virgoans appear effeminate when they are not. In marriage they can be genuinely affectionate, making good spouses and parents, but their love making is a perfection of technique rather than the expression of desire, and they must be careful not to mate with a partner whose sex drive requires a passion they cannot match.

They are intellectually enquiring, methodical and logical, studious and teachable. They combine mental ingenuity with the ability to produce a clear analysis of the most complicated problems. They have an excellent eye for detail but they may be so meticulous that they neglect larger issues. Also, although they are realists, they may slow down projects by being too exact.
They are practical with their hands, good technicians and have genuine inventive talents, Thoroughness, hard work and conscientiousness are their hallmarks, and they are such perfectionists that, if things go wrong, they are easily discouraged. Because of their ability to see every angle of a many-sided question, they are unhappy with abstract theorizing. Appreciating the many different points of view as they do, they find philosophical concepts difficult, and they vacillate and have no confidence in any conclusions at which they arrive.

With these qualities, they are better as subordinates than leaders. Responsibility irks them and they often lack the breadth of strategic vision that a leader needs Virgoans are essentially tacticians, admirable in the attainment of limited objectives. Their self distrust is something they project on to other people and tends to make them exacting employers, though in the demands they make on those under them they temper this attitude with justice. They have potential abilities in the arts, sciences and languages. Language especially they use correctly, clearly, consciously and formally, as grammarians and etymologists rather than for literary interests, yet they are likely to have a good memory for apt quotations. Although they are well suited for careers in machine drawing, surveying and similar occupations, they are better fitted for a job in a library or office than a workshop.

Their minds are such that they need the stimulus of practical problems to be solved rather than the mere routine or working to set specifications that need no thought. They are careful with money and their interest in statistics makes them excellent bookkeepers and accountants. They also make good editors, physicists and analytical chemists. They may also find success as welfare workers, ministering to those less fortunate than themselves. They can be doctors, nurses, psychologists, teachers, confidential secretaries, technologists, inspectors, musicians, critics, public speakers and writers especially of reference works such as dictionaries and encyclopedias. Both sexes have a deep interest in history, a feature recognized by astrological authorities for at least two hundred years. If they go in for a business career their shrewdness and analytical ingenuity could tempt them into dishonesty, though they usually have enough moral sense to resist temptation. Female Virgoans may find a career in fashion, for they have a flair for dress, in which they can be trend setters. In any profession they choose the natives of this sign readily assimilate new ideas, but always with caution, conserving what they consider worth keeping from the past. They love country life but are unlikely to make good farmers, unless they can contrive to carry out their work without outraging their sense of hygiene and cleanliness.

Their faults, as is usual with all zodiacal types, are the extremes of their virtues. Fastidious reticence and modesty become old-maidishness and persnicketiness; balanced criticism becomes carping and nagging; and concern for detail becomes overspecialization. Virgoans are liable to indecision in wider issues and this can become chronic, turning molehills of minor difficulties into Himalayas of crisis. Their prudence can become guile and their carefulness, turned in on themselves, can produce worriers and hypochondriacs.
Possible Health Concerns...

Virgo is said to govern the hands, abdomen, intestines, spleen and central nervous system. Illnesses to which its natives are prone include catarrh, cold, coughs, pleurisies, pneumonia and nervous instabilities. Their natures make them inclined to worry and this makes them vulnerable to stomach and bowel troubles, including colic and ulcers. Male Virgoans may have trouble with their sexual organs. Both sexes are strongly interested in drugs and esoteric cuisine and as their delicate stomachs require them to be careful about their diet, it is essential that they treat their fascination with exotic food with extreme care.

horoscopes

* LIKES Health foods
* Lists
* Hygiene
* Order
* Wholesomeness

* DISLIKES Hazards to health
* Anything sordid
* Sloppy workers
* Squalor
* Being uncertain

PROBLEMS THAT MAY ARISE FOR YOU, AND THEIR SOLUTIONS

As with all sun signs, we all have unique traits to our personalities. When these traits are suppressed, or unrealized, problems will arise. However, with astrology we can examine the problem and assess the proper solution based on the sun sign characteristics. As a Virgo you may see things below that really strike home. Try the solution, you most likely will be amazed at the results. If you find yourself on the receiving end of the negatives below, it is because you are failing to express the positive.

Problem: Finding yourself frequently alone and unable to keep friends for more than a few weeks.
Solution: Try not to be argumentative over much and the constant criticism that Virgos give to their companions are not endearing qualities to have. Try to live and let live, they will love you for it.

Problem: People tend to avoid making close contact with you.
Solution: Being too preoccupied with health and making it a continual topic of conversation. Try to keep your tips and suggestions about health and health products to yourself unless asked for them.

Problem: Dissatisfied with the way your life is turning out; no excitement or change to speak of.
Solution: You may be restricting yourself by reducing your life to a set of theories and pigeon-holes. Try to express the positive by first asking yourself, Who or what are you serving; are you devoted or are you enslaved. Answer those questions and then start a new path that includes your true worth.

Problem: You may feel that your life and your climb to success is a steep hill that you may never be able to scale.
Solution: Try expressing the positive traits of your finely tuned analytical reasoning, employing the light touch with employees and coworkers, while expressing genuine concern for all; You will find those mountains turning into hills that you run right over.

horoscopes

Your ruling planet is MERCURY

Mean distance from the Sun (AU) 0.387
Sidereal period of orbit (years) 0.24
Equatorial radius (km) 2,439
Polar radius (km) 2,439
Body rotation period (hours) 1,408
Tilt of equator to orbit (degrees) 0
Number of observed satellites 0

The Virgin is the entity that is associated with your sign. The above picture is of the grotto in Lourdes, France where the Virgin appeared to the children. In the upper right you will see a statute of The Lady. The Virgin imparts purity of intent to the actions of the persons born under the sign of Virgo.

The colors for Virgo are GREEN AND DARK BROWN

Starstone is Sardonyx

Starstone is the beautiful, SARDONYX. The Sardonyx can be found with many different colored bands on it but the one suggested for Virgo is that of the reddish brown variety. It is in the quartz family and is mined around the world.

Some Famous Virgoeans That Share Your Sign!
August 23, 1970 - River Phoenix - Actor
August 24, 1770 - Friedrich Hegal - Writer
August 24, 1944 - Chris Chubbock - Celebrity
August 25, 1918 - Leonard Bernstein - Conductor
August 25, 1918 - George Wallace - Politician
August 25, 1930 - Sean Connery - Actor
August 25, 1933 - Regis Philbin - TV Personality
August 25, 1947 - Anne Archer - Actress
August 25, 1954 - Elvis Costello - Singer
August 26, 1819 - Prince Albert - Royalty
August 26, 1904 - Christopher Isherwood - Religious Figure
August 26, 1921 - Zipporah Dobyns - Astrologer
August 26, 1923 - Richard Attenborough - TV Host
August 27, 1871 - Theodore Dreiser - Writer
August 27, 1908 - Lyndon Johnson - President USA
Auguat 27, 1910 - Mother Teresa - Humanitarian
August 27, 1929 - Yasser Arafat - Political Figure
August 27, 1931 - Sri Chinmoy - Religious Leader
August 27, 1939 - Pee Wee Herman - Comdian
August 27, 1943 - Tuesday Weld - Actress
August 28, 1749 - Johann V. Goethe - Writer
August 29, 1876 - Frances Kettering - Engineer
August 29, 1907 - Don Loper - Designer
August 29, 1962 - Maeterlinck - Historical Figure
August 29, 1915 - Ingrid Bergman - Actress
August 29, 1938 - Elliot Gould - Actor
August 29, 1958 - Michael Jackson - Singer
August 30, 1797 - Mary Godwin Shelley - Writer
August 30, 1943 - Jean Claud Killy - Skier
August 31, 1880 - Queen Wilhelmina - Neth. Royalt
August 31, 1903 - Arthur Godfrey - Entertainer
August 31, 1908 - William Saroyan - Writer
August 31, 1916 - Daniel Schorr - Jounalist
August 31, 1924 - Buddy Hacket - Actor
August 31, 1928 - James Coburn - Actor
August 31, 1949 - Richard Gere - Actor
August 31, 1950 - Arthur Bremer - Criminal
September 1, 1875 - William Rice Burroughs - Writer
September 1. 1907 - Walter Reuther - Union Official
September 1, 1924 - Rocky Marciano - Boxer
September 1, 1938 - Alan Dershowitz - Attorney
September 1, 1939 - Lilly Tomlin - Comediene
September 1. 1957 - Gloria Estefan - Singer
September 2, 1919 - Marge Champion - Dancer
September 2, 1948 - Terry Bradshaw - Sports Figure
September 2, 1951 - Mark Harmon - Actor
September 2, 1961 - Michael Thiessen - Astrologer
September 3, 1935 - Eileen Brennan - Actress
September 3, 1943 - Valarie Perrine - Actress
September 3, 1965 - Charlie Sheen - Actor
September 4, 1530 - Ivan the Terrible - Royalty
September 4, 1824 - Anton Bruckner - Composer
September 4, 1896 - Antinon Artaud - Writer
September 4, 1908 - Richard Wright - Inventor
September 4, 1913 - Micky Cohen - Gangster
September 4, 1918 - Paul Harvey - Broadcaster
September 4, 1920 - Craig Claiborne - Writer
September 4, 1929 - Tomas Eagelton - Politician
September 5, 1912 - John Cage - Musician
September 5, 1913 - John Mitchell - Politician
September 5, 1927 - Paul Volcker - Federal Reserve
September 5, 1902 - Darryl F. Zanuck - Producer
September 5, 1929 - Bob Newhart - Actor
September 5, 1940 - Raquel Welch - Actress
September 6, 1888 - Joseph Kennedy Sr. - Famous Family
September 6, 1860 - Jane Adams - Social Worker
September 6, 1944 - Swoosie Kurtz - Actress
September 7, 1887 - Edith Sitwell - Writer
September 7, 1900 - Taylor Caldwell - Writer
September 7, 1924 - Daniel Inouye - Politician
September 7, 1943 - Peter Lynch - Financial Wiz
September 7, 1936 - Buddy Holly - Singer
September 8, 1841 - Antonin Dvorak - Composer
September 8, 1889 - Robert Taft - Politician
September 8, 1922 - Lyndon Larouche - Celebrity
September 8, 1924 - Grace Metalious - Writer
September 8, 1925 - Peter Sellers - Actor
September 8, 1948 - Sam Nun - Politician
September 9, 1890 - Jimmy “the Greek Snyder - Celebrity
September 9. 1925 - Cliff Robertson - Actor
September 9, 1941 - Otis Redding - Musician
September 9, 1951 - Michael Keaton - Actor
September 10, 1929 - Arnold Palmer - Sport Figure
September 10, 1934 - Charles Kuralt - Journalist
September 10, 1945 - Jose Feliciano - Singer
September 10, 1948 - Margaret Trudeau - Political Wife
September 10, 1953 - Amy Irving - Actress
September 10, 1924 - Tom Landry - Sports Figure
September 11, 1862 - O. Henry - Writer
September 11, 1885 - D.H. Lawrence - Writer
September 11, 1932 - Bob Packwood - Politician
September 11, 1940 - Brian Depalma - Director
September 11, 1962 - Kristy McNichol - Actress
September 12, 1880 - Henry L. Menken - Writer
September 12, 1888 - Maurice Chevalier - Actor
September 12, 1940 - Linda Gray - Actress
September 13, 1819 - Clara Schumann - Composer
September 13, 1857 - Milton Hershey - Industrialist
September 13, 1905 - Claudette Colbert - Actress
September 13, 1944 - Jacqueline Bissett - Actress
September 13, 1948 - Nell Carter - Actress
September 14, 1879 - Margaret Sanger - Activist
September 15, 1789 - George Fenimore Cooper - Writer
September 15, 1857 - William H. Taft - President US
September 15, 1880 - Agatha Christie - Writer
September 15, 1922 - Jackie Cooper - Actor
September 16, 1638 - Lousi XIV 'Sun King' - Royalty
September 16, 1924 - Lauren Bacall - Actress
September 16, 1926 - Rev. Robert Schuller - Religious Leader
September 17, 1907 - Warren Burger - U.S. Justice
September 17, 1931 - Anne Bancroft - Actress
September 17, 1948 - John Ritter - Actor
September 18, 1916 - Rossano Brazzi - Actor
September 18, 1962 - Refrigerator Perry - Sports Figure
September 18, 1905 - Greta Garbo - Actress
September 19, 1928 - Mickey Mouse - Cartoon Character
September 19, 1941 - Cass Elliot - Singer
September 19, 1948 - Jeremy Irons - Actor
September 19, 1949 - Twiggy - Model
September 19, 1950 - Joan Lunden - TV Personality
September 20, 1853 - Chulalonghorn, Siam - Royalty
September 20, 1878 - Upton Sinclare - Writer
September 20, 1928 - Dr. Joyce Brothers - Psychologist
September 20, 1934 - Sophia Loren - Actress
September 21, 1874 - Gustave Holst - Composer
September 21, 1866 - H. G. Wells - Writer
September 21, 1931 - Harry Hagman - Actor
September 21, 1944 - Hamilton Jordon - Press Secretary
September 21, 1947 - Stephen King - Writer
September 21, 1950 - Bill Murray - Actor
September 22, 1932 - Ingemar Johansson - Boxer
September 22, 1960 - Joan Jett - Singer
September 22, 1960 - Tai Babilonia - Skater

The Zodiac is made up of 12 different sun signs. Your date of birth determines which one you are. Chek out yours..

* Aries - March 21 - April 20
* Taurus - April 21 - May 21
* Gemini - May 22 - June 21
* Cancer - June 22 - July 22
* Leo - July 23 -August 23
* Virgo - August 22 - September 22
* Libra - September 24 - October 23
* Scorpio - October 24 - November 22
* Sagittarius - November 23 - December 21
* Capricorn - December 22 - January 20
* Aquarius - January 21 - February 19
* Pisces - February 20- March 20

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Radha Krishna

Krishna was with all the devos in sabha. He started to vibrate and from his own body his shakti came out in the form of Radha. She was so beautiful, and Krishna was so shyam. Someone made fun of their couple. Radha got angry and cursed him. That same person cursed Radha and said she will never be able to unite with Krishna (will not get married).

However, there is the story of Radha and Krishna getting married by Brahma in the forest.

Radha is Krishna's energy/shakti. He cannot live without her, and she cannot live without him. She is not a woman, nor a jiva. She is a part of Krishna. She did not take birth. She emerged from him. Literally, they are one. You cannot have an image of Krishna alone. Krishna alone is incomplete without his Radha.

In some descriptions, radha was actually a married woman. it was she who is said to indulge in an affair with krishna. even if it was not so, the relationship of radha and krishna were on a different plane, and they were actually the same being, just god in the form of man and woman. their love was pure and spiritual, and cannot be purified further by the bond of marriage.

Radha and Krishna are said to be one. Their love is eternal. What is marriage? Marriage is a sacrament (Sanskara), a rite enabling two individuals to start their journey in life together. In a Hindu wedding, the multiplicity of creation becomes possible when spirit (Purush) unites with matter (Prakritti). Krishna and Radha being one did not need the basis of marriage.

This is of course my point of view, from what i have read and gathered. I myself am totally in love with Lord Krishna.

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

BIG word SACRIFICE in LOVE

Loving someone unconditionally is to love him for whom he is without any expectations. It is not easy to learn about an abstract concept like love.

To understand the basis for a deeper and meaningful relationship with unconditional love,

Take responsibility for how you react to a person or situation. You are the one that determines if you are happy or sad. Prevent the blame game and gain control over your life and love.

Approach your love relationship without any predetermined mindset. Know that nobody is perfect and everyone has her own gifts and shortcomings.

Give the space and freedom the other person needs. To love someone deeply is to grow together in the spirit. Controlling the other person does not assure you of a secure relationship. The feeling of your partner's love is enough security.

Believe that love given in its truest form comes back one way or the other. Give yourself wholeheartedly without any boundaries. Love is possible without hurt only when ego is dropped completely.

Accept your partner and their limitations without any judgment.
Grow in the relationship based on trust and sacrifice instead of self-satisfaction alone.

Never think Marriage is the ultimate goal of love. Family, Values, Acceptance, Trust & Confidence bring zeal to life.

Love the other person for their existence in your life than for what they do for you.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Love vs Arrange Marriage

I just don`t understand why people are still against love marriages.
They give their children a freedom to eat, dress, study, pursue hobbies & career of their own choices but not marriage.
They trust their childrens, love them, adore them & fulfill their all wishes.

But when it comes to marriage, scenario changes..

First they object on caste, then they object on looks, then they object on financial status.
I mean what they suddenly start thinking.
They are loosing control and resist change only i guess.

For marriage, compatability should be seen, insecurirites should be sort out, dreams & thinking should be matched.

And please leave back your conservative approach and accept happily the new people in your life.

With love all things are possible
Make sure there is no guarantee in arrange marriage to be successful.

So don`t stick to old rituals so firmly and keep on believing it is right all the time.

Its about perspective only.

Monday, August 10, 2009

Men are from MARS & Women are from VENUS

Punch Line : Boy seeks Physical & Social Needs but Girl seeks Emotional & Financial Needs


Are you thinking about giving up?


You've probably tried everything you can think of to revitalize your love, right?
You probably have. But here's a few other ideas you may want to consider & try.


Remember you have things in common, some parts of your personality are similar to theirs.
Engage in conversation about anything deeper than the normal, superficial
"how are you?" The typical response to that is "fine."
Let your spouse know that you are genuinely interested in them and their thoughts and feelings.

Do things together that you used to like doing, like watching your favorite serial,
taking evening walks, working outside, going to the park, or eating out.
The bottom line is: you can be in love with someone, but you're marriage is only going to last
if you remember all the reasons why you actually like that person.

If you think they have changed and you realize that you don't like your spouse,
take time to examine their lives, hearts, character, and opinions.
Chances are, you'll be able to create a long list of things that you like about your spouse.
And that will help you re-connect.

Realize that the one thing you want from your spouse may be different than
the one thing they want most from you. For example, it is common knowledge that
men crave the respect of their wives more than anything else,
and that women desperately need to know that their husbands love them.
If either of these is thrown into doubt, even for an instant, it can wreak havoc on the person's state of mind,
and will cause a gap in your marriage.

Your husband needs to know that you respect him. He believes that if he feels respected by you,
then he automatically feels loved. Feeling respect is the gateway to how men perceive love.

Wives, on the other hand, desperately need to be convinced of their husband's love.
If they doubt that fact, they will be confused, anxious, over-analyzing, suspicious, and ultimately devastated.
Women tend to personalize and internalize everything, so if the woman doesn't feel loved,
she'll assume that her husband must not love her and that she is somehow the source of the problem.
When a woman feels loved by her husband, she automatically feels respected.
There's no question about it for her, because everything else easily falls into place as soon as she feels secure in her husband's love.

So now you realize that men & women want and need different things from each other.
Take action! Find out how your husband most wants to know & feel respected, then do it!
For example, if you merely say, "Honey, I really respect you," and your husband still doesn't
really feel respected, what did you do wrong? Perhaps you simply missed his pressure points.
Perhaps what he really needs is for you to let him make a decision in front of your or his friends.
Or trust him to take care of something and not nag him about it. Perhaps he wants more respectful
"actions" from you, rather than just words. Find out which he responds to best!

All you husbands out there! Does your wife ask you all the time, "do you really love me?"
Or some version? Or do you see the question in her eyes, always nagging at her?
Why can't she quit worrying if you love her or not? Of course you love her;
you married her and you provide for her!

But your wife may simply need you to show her or tell her that you love her in a different way.
Instead of words, maybe she really loves it when you hug her and touch her face.
Or maybe she really feels your love when you do something around the house without having to be asked.
Explore the different ways that your wife wants to feel & hear your love. You won't be disappointed!

Pursue your spouse. This means not waiting for them to make the first move to apologize after a squabble.
This means going that extra mile to do something nice for them, like filling their gas tank,
without any thought of acknowledgment or gratitude. Remember when you were dating and you did all those sweet
and wonderful things for each other? You made her handmade things, you bought him stuff,
you went fun places just to be alone? What happened? What made you think that she stopped liking those things?
Why do you think that he no longer wants to go to all those fun places?

Do nice things for your spouse, and don't wait for them to make the first move,
even if you feel like you've been the only one trying. Sooner or later,
your spouse is going to recognize the difference in you and will begin to appreciate
all the sacrifices that you're making for them. Keep your chin up and keep going!

These ideas are only suggestions, and they are certainly not the only ideas out there on the subject.
But I think you'll find if you really get to know what your partner needs and then cater to those exact needs,
you're marriage will be revitalized, revamped, and re-romanced!
Before giving up on your marriage, give these suggestions a try.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Marriage - The BIG Question.....?

The question - that should you propose marriage, or should you say yes to his/her proposal haunts many of you in relationships. When should you marry? What are the pre-requisites for that? Let us find out.

The first need, of course, is that both of you love each other. It should not be infatuation or plain old lust, but love. To be in love means, you like to be with that person. You enjoy his/her togetherness. You care for her/him and you can trust that person. Being in love means that you can share your deepest secrets without fear and give and expect support. Being in love means that your object of love is the most important person in your life and you would not like to leave him/her for anybody else. If any of these conditions are not met, it is not love but something else. Oh, yes, one last requirement - your heart should pound every time you talk to your loved or look at him/her.

If you are in love and if your partner reciprocates it with the same intensity then the next would be interests. What is common between both of you? If he is a liberal and you are a conservative to the core, life would be a little difficult. We are not talking in political terms, but about attitude and values. If you do not value what he/she values, your relationship will not prosper. If your values say that you must be honest at all times, and his/her values allow lies now and then, you are sure to get into a conflict after some time.

The third requirement is life goals. Are you sharing common goals? Your goal may be to earn lot of money even at the cost of family life and his/her need may be to live happily even if money is less, you will again clash. Values and goals are important. They play a bigger role in life after the initial euphoria of love is over. The last need is - are you feeling safe committing to him/her? Are you feeling safe committing or would like to search around more? Once you can decide that all these are in the right place, you should marry. Otherwise, life may be full of acrimony, dissatisfaction and regrets. It will not be a happy marriage but a marriage that has to be carried through. That will give no pleasure.


the rule of care (meet each other's most important emotional needs), the rule of protection (avoid being the cause of each other's unhappiness), the rule of time (schedule time each week to give each other undivided attention) and the rule of honesty (be totally honest with each other).

Marry the man who has everything you want, at least at the time of your marriage.

Friday, September 12, 2008

The Power of Three Little Words

Some of the most significant messages people deliver to one another often come in just three words. When spoken or conveyed, those statements have the power to forge new friendships, deepen old ones and restore relationships that have cooled. The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship.

I'LL BE THERE - Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and to us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. 'Being there' is at the very very core of civility.

I MISS YOU - Perhaps more marriages could be salvaged and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely said to each other, "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.

I RESPECT YOU - Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that
another person is a true equal. It is a powerful way to affirm the importance of a relationship.

MAYBE YOU'RE RIGHT - This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring
frayed emotions. The flip side of "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting "maybe I'm wrong."

PLEASE FORGIVE ME - Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I THANK YOU - Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

COUNT ON ME - "A friend is one who walks in when others walk out," Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those who are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there, indicating "you can count on me."


LET ME HELP - The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

I UNDERSTAND YOU - People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting others know in so many little ways that you understand him or her is one of the most powerful tools for healing your relationship.

GO FOR IT - Some of your friends may be non conformists, have unique projects and unusual hobbies. Support them in pursuing their interests. Rather than urging your loved ones to conform, encourage their uniqueness-everyone has dreams that no one else has.

I suppose the 3 little words that you were expecting to see have to be reserved for those who are special; that is I LOVE YOU.

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Need Of Applying Vermilion In The Parting Line Of Hair ?

At the time of marriage, vermilion is applied in the parting line of bride's hair for the first time. Since that day, as long as her husband is alive, a married woman has to follow this tradition without fail. Applying of vermilion in the parting line of hair has religious as well as scientific reasons. According to Adbhut Ramayan, application of vermilion brings fortune for the husband and he enjoys a long life. Sita had herself related this fact to Hanumana.

According to astrology, parting line of hair is similar to Naagin (female cobra). If after marriage, it is left as it is, it brings great misfortunes for the bride. Application of vermilion in the parting line of hair does away with this fault and at the same time suppresses the Naagin.

Scientifically, the parting line of hair is the most tender spot of women and application of vermilion provides it with due protection because of the presence of metals like mercury in the vermilion. This metal not only controls the electrical impulses in a woman's body but also curbs her excitement and protects the tender spot from external defects. Apart from it, parasites like lice, dandruff etc. also find a suitable home in a woman's hair. Vermilion also keeps these parasites at bay.

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Intercourse : When And Why

Exponents of scriptures have intertwined every human activity with certain norms for the benefit of society and saving a man from fall. The whole universe is a result of union of masculine and feminine forces. Life forms are nothing but innumerable distinct manifestation of nature, the invisible force that pervades the entire universe. Barring some lower primitive life forms, all the higher living beings require union of male and female forces for their continuation. Human being is no exception to this rule.

Since the day humans appeared on earth, continuation of this race involved physical union of man and woman. With time, this union evolved into elaborate rituals and refined institution like marriage. Long ago, our ancestors devised certain norms and taboos in order to ensure sanctity in the relation between man and woman. They had complete control over their sexual drives while they honoured the tradition of their clans regarding selection of mate.

For the benefit of the individual and the society as a whole, it is imperative that a thing should be done at the right and auspicious moment. Only then such a thing could be favourable for the doer. The same thing applies to the physical union of man and woman. Scriptures have very clearly opined in this regard. Accordingly, after the menses, intercourse should be carried out on any auspicious moment on days except the fourth, eighth, fourteenth and moonless and full moon nights.

Time from the appearance of menses, up to the sixteenth day is known as Ritukaal for a woman. During this period, a woman is especially in heat and an intercourse without the use of contraceptives is sure to result into a pregnancy. The first four nights of this period are forbidden period. During this time, dark-coloured blood with peculiar smell flows. Contact with such a woman is harmful for both the partners physically as well as psychologically.

Besides the first four nights, intercourse is prohibited on the eleventh and thirteenth nights also. Remaining ten nights are completely conducive for the intercourse. Even on these ten days, if a festival or full moon and moonless nights fall, intercourse must be postponed. Positions of the Sun and the Moon on these days are such that their combined effects influence profoundly the human psychology and the movement of fluids in the body. An intercourse involves perfect streamlining of bodily fluids and if it is carried out on any of these days, adverse effects on the body cannot be ruled out. Even a child that a woman bears, on full moon and moonless nights may carry these defects like having two heads, a tail, four hands, joint bodies or psychological defects like being cruel, daredevils, murderers etc. Even the birds and animals enjoy intercourse at a prefixed time set by the nature. The male bird and animal scent their female counterparts to judge whether they are really ready to conceive or not. They proceed to intercourse only when the female is in oestrous.

Nights have been fixed as the precise period for enjoying intercourse. Even at night, time from nine to twelve is most conducive that to at least one and half-hours after taking dinner. Intercourse is strictly prohibited at twilight of dawn and dusk. It has a spiritual as well as physical significance. An intercourse carried out at unfavourable time always leads to the birth of a demonic child. Ravan is one such profound example. Despite being a Brahmin by birth, he developed demonic virtues for his parents had an intercourse at twilight.

In the modern era, when girls are faring well in almost every field and are no less than the boys, there are many people who long for a son. In their effort to have a son, such people keep on producing many girl children and blame the destiny for their condition. Practice of patience and recognition of appropriate time is important for such people who want to have a son. Such people must carry out intercourse on the even days after the menses that is they should carry out intercourse on sixth, eighth, tenth, twelfth, fourteenth or sixteenth day after the menses. Intercourse on the odd days that is fifth, seventh, ninth, eleventh, thirteenth and fifteenth days after the menses is favourable for having a girl child. It is said that during an intercourse, excess of seminal fluid leads to a boy child whereas excess of Ruj (female fluid of excitement) leads to the birth of a girl child.

It is said that after the menses are over, a peculiar kind of excitement (cupid wave) overtakes the woman. This wave rises and falls on alternate days. On even days, cupid wave subsides whereas on odd days, it surges. Thus, having intercourse on auspicious moments in auspicious days not only maintains sanctity and good health that also helps one to get a desired offspring.

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

WHY MARRIAGE IS PROHIBITED WHEN JUPITER ENTERS LEO

The Almighty God after having created all the planets of the solar system also created their abodes i.e. the twelve zodiacs. According to Indian astrology, the sun is considered to be the lord of zodiac sign Leo whereas the Moon is believed to be the lord of Cancer.The remaining five planets are given the lordship of two zodiacs each. Rahu and Ketu being shadow planets are not believed to be independent planets and hence they are not given lordship of any zodiac.

While travelling on its orbit, Jupiter enters the zodiac of Leo after every 13 years. The Jupiter is believed to be the bestower of knowledge and learning and hence one should properly utilize this opportunity in attaining knowledge instead of wasting it on worldly tendencies like marriage etc. One would get enough opportunities to indulge in such activities.

Jupiter is believed to be the preceptor of all the deities including Sun God. It is the duty of a disciple to treat his guru with due respect and reverence whenever he arrives at his home, forgetting about everything else. This is the reason why marriage is prohibited whenever Jupiter enters the zodiac of Leo.

Friday, February 8, 2008

About me ! !

Hey .... 2day I gonna have short interview of myself!

My Name. .
Hetal Mehta ( d gr8 ! ! )

Also Known as. .
Shona @ Frens, Sana to others and Sanya to all the rest :)

I was Born on. .
12th of Sep as a Star Virgo !

More about me. .
I am a very sweet, loving,committed, fun-loving,cool and bindaas person. When it comes to work, I am very serious about it. I think a lot. I do have a lot of patience. I love to talk.
And, I love humor. So, don’t ever wonder if you find me laughing all the time, cracking some joke or the other…
Give me a job, and if I say I will do it, I will do it.

Present state of mind. .
I am planning to take my mom to the movie "Jodha Akbar" after convincing her it's a replica of Mughal - e - Azam

With whom I live in this Earth?
Ofcourse wid my parents

Is mine parents still together ?
Oye ! Abbe western culture ke poster , humare India mein parents remain together . They are very much together and have no dangerous plans . Shaadi mein fevicol khaayi thi mummy papa ne , mazboot jod hain , tootega nahi.

Day(s) Which I can never Forget. .
Aah! there is a long list.. ask me personally abt dis!

I Hate. .
People who are extremely non-committed. Who don’t know the value of time, money & MORALES. I cant tolerate lies. That’s it I guess.. nothing more….

Marriage 2 me is. .
Marriage is a union of two minds , who then commit to tread the path of life together , facing all adversity and celebrating all joys together , and helping each other grow in the process or otherwise , the essence of a marriage is unaffected by such trivial issues like LIVE - IN relation & CONTRACTUAL MARRIAGE.
Subhan allah , ekdum miss world waala answer diya na !

Person who made me cry. .
Me . . I believe no one else can make me cry . Tears arise out of what I do with the thoughts in my head . ( Kaafi profound hain yeh jawaab , samajh na aye tho koi nahi )

About Life. .
Life ! Trust me, you will never ever ever ever ever..understand what life is till you are alive. But till now, my life has been pretty much ok, full of ups and downs. So, as of now, this is what I have to say of life.
“Life is more or less like a game of snake and ladders."
You are the top at some point of time, and at the very next moment, you are at square one. You never know what is in store for you. We just have to live with those ups and downs. Be happy with what we have”

My Dreams. .
* To earn lot of money & respect.
* To fullfill all the dreams of my family to make them happy & proud of me 1 day.
* To remove ‘the’ country which actively supports terrorism in the name of religion from the face of this planet, and make this world a more peaceful place to live.
* To see India in a position better than other advanced countries like US…
* And……… To make my love d most happiest person in this world :-)

Is anyone in love with me ?
Guys.. this question is for you.
(Aaju baaju mat dekh , baat dil ki bol daal..)

Thursday, November 8, 2007

A Casual Relationship or Something More?

Everybody knows that humans are social creatures, but we are also lonely creatures. We all enjoy company.

Company not just from friends and family, but from that special person that we can share sweet nothings and simple pleasures and pains, someone who we can build a whole new life with, someone who we can raise a family of our own with. A basic need of every person is to find a life mate. And the most popular method used for this is dating.

When we talk about dating, know that we aren't talking about just a step towards sleeping together. Dating is much more than that. It is the first step towards choosing a life partner and online dating has made the whole process a lot simpler.

Now what you do and what you want is entirely your business. I don’t want to sound like I am getting in your business but I would like to point out the differences between the kind of dating that is involved if you are looking for a casual relationship or if you are looking for a more serious relationship..

Obviously in a casual relationship you are looking for fun. And mind you, fun can mean many different things. Here the person you would look for is obviously someone who doesn't want a serious relationship.

If both of you are on the same page then it is all good because you understand each other perfectly and don't expect much from such a relationship. This leaves no room for heartbreak.

It's when one of you is in for something more serious and the other is into only fun that the problems start. So you should be absolutely clear about what you are looking for from the start, and you should make your intentions very clear to the other person.

At the same time you should have no doubts about the intentions of the other person as well. Remember, even if it is a casual relationship, there should be mutual understanding about the nature of the relationship.

Of course, there is always a possibility that a casual relationship can turn into something more serious. But, again in such cases it is your instincts that can help you identify what is good and what is bad.

No matter how strong a person is, anyone can be taken for a ride or be taken for granted. Being deceived or dumped is not a nice experience. So those of you who are going in for a casual relationship, be on your guard! Marriage is altogether a different story but we will deal with that later.

Friends First

I think you should look at internet dating not as a prospective husband/wife hunt but as an effort to make a lot of friends, and I mean good friends. Friends that you can laugh with, friends who make you laugh. Not everyone can make us laugh, and when I say laugh, I am not talking about some comedian. I am talking about friends here.

Friends make your life richer. The best thing about friends is that you can be yourself with them and they can be themselves with you. And that means letting it all out. Remember, that besides being your husband or wife, your spouse should be your best friend as well.

That is one mistake that most couples make. They tend to look upon their friends and their spouses as separate. While it is perfectly ok to have your own friends, your best friend should always be your husband or wife.

They should be someone you can share your dreams and fears with, someone who understands, someone who can give your hand a gentle squeeze when things go wrong and someone who can brighten up your darkest day.

All this is a very far cry from sex right? That is why I did mention earlier that looks and sex should be the last criteria in the selection of a life partner. The marriage proposal must come as a natural sequence and it should by no means be the first thing that comes out as soon as you warm up to a person. You cannot very well say something like, “hey, you know what, I think we have the same tastes so let’s get married.”

I hope you have got the hang of what I meant by working backwards now? Good. You are ready to move on now.

Sunday, November 4, 2007

Mujhsai Shaadi Karoge..?

I need to wake up to the fact that choosing a life partner is a decision as huge as Jupiter. And I need to find a boy who is happily excited to see me gossiping all day with him.

I have had the coffee-movie-pizza thing with friends who are boys, but in some years, I will need to find a boy whom I understand and who understands me and decides much more than which pizza to order. And finding him is not easy, considering that I think boys are indirect, complicated, get angry too fast and ask questions only to hear the answers they want.

I want a guy who respect girls, has a gud sense of humour, take care of me, has values in life & who says BIG NO to "Smoking, Drinking & Non - Veg".

So all this, and add to that a thick Gurgaon traffic and a cellphone which keeps ringing, and life gets a little jumpy for me at 22.

In a childish sort of manner, I want to ring up god and ask him “Hey, can you rewind my age by four years, I am not exactly ready for this!”, but I think he will just bang down the receiver.


But if I look at the overall stuff, I need to bring back some balance in my life. I need to ask myself some questions. I need to find some answers. How do I do that? I will figure it out right after I finish this blog.

Monday, October 1, 2007

Me With Myself

In my Life`s Journey, I just enrolled myself in MBA Programme from ICFAI.

Actually,I couldn't do my job now without having an MBA but, on the other hand, I can't claim that I use particular skills or techniques in my job that I will learn in the MBA. It's more that it gave me a general sense of confidence and a grounding in all business areas and types of people.

Also, I m planning to invest in Share Market as Sensex is @ towering heights.
I m positively looking forward to it wen I dont know anythg abt it(lolz...).

Looking for a new job too.. (agar koi ho to batana.. itne kam paiso mai guzara nahin hota yaar!) as I have to gift a Car to my dear sweetheart & lovely MOM on her 25th Marriage Anniversary.

so much work to do & still I m writting a Blog..
k.. guys I know I know I gotta go now & start performing actions to implement plans running inside my mind..

Catch ya laters!

Friday, September 14, 2007

Ofcourse.. love exists!

Well. We all are living in “Scientific Age” & we look for the reasons & proofs to believe on anything.
We ask, Air exists or not?
If it is then why can’t we touch it.
We get its logical answer & start believing. Right?
But have ya ever thought that if we still didn’t be able to find its existence then,
Is there no air available on this Earth?
Second thing, I am not cheating to myself & I never do.
Yes, It is true “Respect” is the building block of “Love” but that doesn`t mean that “Love” doesn`t exist.
“If I believe in love I should also have reason to believe, that without empirical evidence,things exist, like GOD.”
Well, it was a good question and one that I was not prepared to answer. Nevertheless, I was compelled by the philosophical ideas that were presented and needed to spend time thinking about how I can answer that question of LOVE.
Here is a quote that could solve a lot of problems if people lived by it:
‘You are so young, my son(and daughter), and, as the years go by, time will change and even reverse many of your present opinions. Refrain therefore awhile from setting yourself up as judge of the highest matters.’ - PLATO
How can one prove that love exists? For that matter how can one prove that any emotion, or feelings exists? Compassion, hate, fear, calm, excitement, joy, amazement, fortunate, pleased, angry, irritated, hostile, mad, violent, skeptical, lost, and the list goes on! As far as PROVING any of these, NO - you cannot. The question really should be: “Is it RATIONAL to believe that you LOVE someone or that someone LOVES you? And I would say that the answer for me is a resounding YES. It is very rational.
Love is shown in so many ways. A wink, a smile, a look, a hug, a kiss, and if you love someone more than average, it may be shown through selfless acts, sacrificial compromises, lifelong commitments, in marriage, or as a parent raising their child. This is evidential basis for a rational belief that love exists. However, evidence is open for debate and can be wrong, but in the end I believe the existence of LOVE is rational.
I believe that conversation can be cut short because of something called Faith.
What about Faith? Does that count for anything. Of course it does. I will never be able to disprove God to a man/women of Faith. That is why I don’t engage in these conversations too often, because they come to a stand still when faith comes into the conversation. I see faith as a roadblock to logical discourse, and I also understand that logical discourse doesn’t matter to most who have Faith or the other side of that.
Faith disregards any evidential type of conversation.
What does it come down to then if I can’t prove that God doesn’t exists or prove that he does? It means that for each person we must choose between a few options about the beginnings of time. (there may be more that just a few options but these are the main ones…)
1. That God exists
2. That God doesn’t exist
3. That you don’t know.
I personally believe that no one knows for sure.
It is the most honest I can be with myself. Now this obviously brings up a ton of other questions… but that part can be for later.
I look forward to hearing your response if you would be so kind.
DISCLAIMER: I reserve the right to change my beliefs, as a matter of fact, I have done so many times and that is why I am always willing to engage in conversations about GOD, the UNIVERSE and EVERYTHING at anytime.

Thursday, July 26, 2007

Thx 4 ur reviews guys.................!!!!!

Kya yaar.... tumne to dil pe le li baat....!!

waise....After getting comments on my recent post....

I thought a lot abt dis thg & I really feel you guys are right..... but it was just an emotion came to my heart which i expressed.......

par achha hua meri aankhein sahi waqt pai khul gayi aur mai sapno ki duniya sai nikal aayi warna anarth ho jaata......(heheheh...)

Dont mind.. I m a big fan of hindi movies !! So..dialogues chori kiye hai..!!

I know..Marriage is just like dat ladoo "jo khaye wo pachtaye jo na khaye wo lalchaye"....lolz!

Anyhow......my plans & emotions are changed now & thx 2 u guys 4 dat....!!

now.. i m planning to enroll in an MBA Program.I m intersted in Finance & searching 4 d right institute..so.... in any case i won`t get marry before 2 years atleast....lolz!!

ab....Aaj khush to bahut hoge tum!!

kyun..?