How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You

Unlike the movies, love doesn’t necessarily just fall into your lap. Dating or trying to date, is a complicated process that can be filled with second-guessing, presumptions and over-thinking.

Here are ten ways to make yourself more open to love. And if it doesn’t work, at least you’ll feel better about yourself. And when the next potential lover comes along, you will be ready!


1: Love yourself
Ahh, get your mind out of the gutter - I’m talking about having respect for yourself. While I know I am running the risk of sounding like a grandma, begin by covering yourself up. You may think your crush wants to see your boobs (and I’m sure he does) but that’s not going to bring you love. If you don’t have respect for yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to. Looking truly sexy is a subtle business, and when it works, it really works.

2: Keep it real
Playing hard to get is all very well, but if it’s love you want, you may want to grow up a little. Keeping it real is a much better method to finding a steady and true connection with someone. Leave the games to scrabble sessions and try to engage in some real conversations instead. Don’t worry about the three-day rule, or any rules. Show him you care by calling him if you want to. Don’t over-do it, but don’t muck him around either.

3: Have a life
One of the best things about being in love is always having someone to talk to. If you have a full and interesting life, it makes sense that you will have more intriguing conversations. And let’s face it - the physical aspect of love only takes you so far. If the two of you can pass the hours deep in conversation without even realising it, then you have potential for a real relationship. So get out there and do things.

4: Set goals
Have you ever noticed how people who know where they’re going in life are always far more interesting than those who seem confused and undecided? I’m not saying you should know exactly what the next five years will bring, but having a goal for the coming year, at least, will make it easier for the object of your affections to respect you.

5: Look after your physical wellbeing
Aside from giving you a hot body, getting some exercise releases endorphins, which in turn provides you with a happy radiance that other people will notice. And perhaps more importantly, you will notice it too. The same goes with eating well. Your skin will be better and you will feel more energetic. It’s all good stuff!

6: Look after your mental wellbeing
Ever sat down to dinner with a person who has just had a hard day? They can’t help but release their tensions by moaning and sighing. Instead of putting all your bothers onto others, why not make sure to take some relaxation time for yourself? Some options are to go to a yoga class, read a book or take a walk.

7: Be positive
Similarly, conversing with a negative person is draining. Try to cut gossip out of your life, or at least keep it for that special friend (we all have a gossip friend!). Talking others down doesn’t make you look any better; it just makes you seem insecure. Try to turn your negative thoughts into positive ones and you may feel better about yourself too.

8: Listen
If you want someone to love you, you need to make sure you love them too. So, listen when they speak. Think about what they are saying and respond. Sounds simple, but when we’re trying to impress it’s easy to forget this basic social skill. Relax - whatever you desperately want them to know will come out in time. Instead, take the time to learn about them.

9: Trust your instincts
This goes back to number two - don’t play games! Teach yourself to have the confidence to act upon your notions. If you think it’s going well and you feel like kissing him - kiss him. Confidence is sexy. It’s also time-saving, as you don’t have to waste precious moments wondering about what each other are thinking. Don’t kid yourself, you know what they’re thinking. Or at least there is a good chance you do. Take that chance!

10: Be yourself
I know what you're wondering 'What do you mean be myself? I don’t have the confidence to trust my instincts, I don’t have goals and I have a boring life!' Well, all of the above tips are about being a new, relaxed you. These are not ways to act, but ways to be. And if you want someone to love you, you will need to make sure you are truly being real. That doesn’t mean you should fart or admit your foot fetish on the first date, but don’t giggle like a schoolgirl either. It’s you who’s going to be there when this relationship continues into the years, so keep it real and you will thank yourself for it later.

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long distance relationship (LDR)

As you’re all probably aware, In a long distance relationship (LDR). It’s at about this point when I hear a rousing chorus of “WHY?!” from those who are reading. Well, it’s something I’ve been asking myself and something everyone who is apart from their significant other should ask themselves. But let’s backtrack to how it all begun. It can be summed up in one word. Cliché. Need I say more? It just clicked. Anyway things happened quickly, you tend to speed things up when you’re dealing with a lack of time. One minute we were saying that it was just a fling and we should say goodbye, next moment we were checking out the best calling plan because we’d decided we wanted to see what would happen. Basically, we didn’t want it to end. But we knew we’d have to do the distance thing. We didn’t plan anything, we just figured it out as we went along. For those who have been in this situation, you know what I mean when I say it’s hard. It’s really hard. Sometime the phone just doesn’t connect it, some days all you want is a hug from your boy and you can’t have it. They say that communication is the basis of any good relationship, well in a LDR it is a necessity. Without that, you have nothing. You need to be honest and open, and for someone like me who isn’t great at expressing herself it’s been a challenge. If anyone had any trust issues when they started this, they all had to go. Of course you have to feel strongly about the person you’re doing this with but without trust then you shouldn’t bother. You will never know who they’re out with or what they’re doing, even for the most self-assured girl it would be tough. Trust and honesty, both necessary, but two of the hardest things to have. Strangely enough, the hardest thing for me to have to deal with has been the reaction from other people. I’m sure they don’t mean to be anything less than supportive but when you’re constantly being told that it’ll be hard and that it’ll never last, it makes everything a little more difficult. I already know that it’s hard, it’s one that’s involved but it’s not something one have gone into lightly. Everyone has an opinion when it comes to this and everyone thinks their answer is the right one. What I’ve discovered is that we have had to figure out what’s right for us, without listening to everybody else’s doubt. For me, what it comes down to is that I’ve met someone who can deal with my interesting ways. He just happens to live in some other place. All relationships have issues that need to be dealt to and this is ours. We make do with the phone and email, our phone bills are huge but the way I see it is, if he were here we’d be going out a lot so we’re probably saving money. We talk so often that we probably know each other better than a lot of other couples who have been together for the same amount of time. The best thing is that he’s coming back. It was important for me to know that there was more to his decision than just us, I can’t be the only reason for him turning his life upside down. He’s already got a great group of friends here, he’s got family and he’s just got a job so when he does get back, things can be normal. I never thought I’d want a normal, everyday relationship and that’s the beauty of distance. You can find out what you both want, you’ve got time to get to know each other without all the other crap that comes with the beginning part of a relationship. The distance has made me appreciate what we have so when he does come, I know I won’t take it for granted

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Why Shivlinga Is Worshipped

The word Linga implies mark or symbol. In Sankhya Darshan, an ancient stream of Indian philosophy even Prakriti (nature) and Vikriti (distortion of nature) have been referred to as Linga. Skand Purana says LAYANAALLINGA MUCHCHYATE. That means, Linga is Pralay. During the Pralay, everything is incinerated and annihilated in Linga. Even Vedas and other scriptures too annihilate in the Linga. All of them then reappear from the Linga when the creation begins afresh once again.

According to a tale in Shiva Purana, once, a dispute erupted between Brahma and Vishnu regarding greatness. Both of them claimed their greatness. The dispute grew so high that, it is said in the tale, Brahma and Vishnu got ready to destroy each other. Just then, a gigantic Shiva Linga appeared between them. It was radiating intense flames. A celestial voice advised Brahma and Vishnu to fathom the beginning and end of the Linga in order to prove their greatness. But none of them could fathom the Linga completely and returned in submission. Lord Shiva then appeared in the Linga and said- "Since I have myself appeared from this Linga, this place will be known as Lingasthan in future and this fathomless Linga will assume a miniature appearance so that all the living beings can easily have a complete sight of it and worship it.

One day, Shankar was roaming in Daarukvana completely naked and carrying His own phallus in hands. His appearance and activity had a luring affect on the women folk of the sages who inhabited the forest. But at the same time, it infuriated the sages as well who cursed Shankar that His phallus would fall on the earth. Indeed, the phallus fell upon the earth but began to burn everything because of its intense flames. All the gods prayed Lord Shiva to end this ordeal. At their prayers, Lord Shiva installed the Linga in a vagina. In this form, Shiva Linga is still worshipped all over the world. Shiva Linga installed in vagina in fact symbolizes divine nature and the supreme masculine force.

Once, Shukracharya visited Kailash to see Lord Shiva but he could not see Him because Shiva was then copulating with Shakti. Indignant Shukracharya cursed Shiva that only His union with the feminine genital would be worshipped.

According to a tale in Narad Panchratra, all other deities except Shiva are womanish in virtues. With the power of their penance, Brahma, Vishnu and Daksha produced Kaalika Devi. Devi asked them to seek a boon. They said- "O mother! You please lure Lord Shiva in the incarnation of Daksha’s daughter."

Kaalika said- "How can I do it. He is a small boy and no match for me."

Brahma assured her that Shiva was not a small boy and was in fact a complete man. Kaalika then took birth as Daksha’s daughter, Sati. In due course of time, she got married to Lord Shiva. Whenever and wherever radiance resulted from their copulation, it fell on the earth and assumed the form of Shiva Linga installed in vagina.

According to another tale, the gods and the demons had frequent wars and every time, the demons used to defeat the gods. Every time after their defeat, the gods took refuge at Brahma. Thus, annoyed by their frequent visits, Brahma led the gods to Lord Shiva and asked about the reason for their frequent defeats. Lord Shiva said- "The gods do not worship my Linga whereas the demons worship my Linga with full faith and devotion. This is the main reason for the gods’ frequent defeats."

Thus, following Lord Shiva’s advice, the gods also started worshipping Shivalinga. By the virtue of this worship, their strength increased steadily.

A Shivalinga typically represents Brahma, Vishnu and Mahesh. Brahma is present at the base of Shivalinga, Vishnu in the middle and the upper part is occupied by Lord Shiva Himself.

MOOLE BRAHMA TATHA MADHYE VISHNUSTRIBHUVANESHWARAH !
RUDROPARI MAHADEVAH PRNAVASYAH SADASHIVAH !
LINGVEDI MAHADEVI LINGA SAAKSHAAN MAHESHWARAH |
TAYOHA SAMPOOJANAANNITYAM DEVI DEVASHCH PUJITAU ||

Nature is the combined manifestation of all the vaginas, which symbolize fertility. It is in the root of Shivalinga also. A Shivalinga established in a vagina shows supremacy of joy and is in itself joy. Shivalinga symbolizes all the ingredients of the universe. Because of all these reasons, Shivalinga is worshipped.

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About me ! !

Hey .... 2day I gonna have short interview of myself!

My Name. .
Hetal Mehta ( d gr8 ! ! )

Also Known as. .
Shona @ Frens, Sana to others and Sanya to all the rest :)

I was Born on. .
12th of Sep as a Star Virgo !

More about me. .
I am a very sweet, loving,committed, fun-loving,cool and bindaas person. When it comes to work, I am very serious about it. I think a lot. I do have a lot of patience. I love to talk.
And, I love humor. So, don’t ever wonder if you find me laughing all the time, cracking some joke or the other…
Give me a job, and if I say I will do it, I will do it.

Present state of mind. .
I am planning to take my mom to the movie "Jodha Akbar" after convincing her it's a replica of Mughal - e - Azam

With whom I live in this Earth?
Ofcourse wid my parents

Is mine parents still together ?
Oye ! Abbe western culture ke poster , humare India mein parents remain together . They are very much together and have no dangerous plans . Shaadi mein fevicol khaayi thi mummy papa ne , mazboot jod hain , tootega nahi.

Day(s) Which I can never Forget. .
Aah! there is a long list.. ask me personally abt dis!

I Hate. .
People who are extremely non-committed. Who don’t know the value of time, money & MORALES. I cant tolerate lies. That’s it I guess.. nothing more….

Marriage 2 me is. .
Marriage is a union of two minds , who then commit to tread the path of life together , facing all adversity and celebrating all joys together , and helping each other grow in the process or otherwise , the essence of a marriage is unaffected by such trivial issues like LIVE - IN relation & CONTRACTUAL MARRIAGE.
Subhan allah , ekdum miss world waala answer diya na !

Person who made me cry. .
Me . . I believe no one else can make me cry . Tears arise out of what I do with the thoughts in my head . ( Kaafi profound hain yeh jawaab , samajh na aye tho koi nahi )

About Life. .
Life ! Trust me, you will never ever ever ever ever..understand what life is till you are alive. But till now, my life has been pretty much ok, full of ups and downs. So, as of now, this is what I have to say of life.
“Life is more or less like a game of snake and ladders."
You are the top at some point of time, and at the very next moment, you are at square one. You never know what is in store for you. We just have to live with those ups and downs. Be happy with what we have”

My Dreams. .
* To earn lot of money & respect.
* To fullfill all the dreams of my family to make them happy & proud of me 1 day.
* To remove ‘the’ country which actively supports terrorism in the name of religion from the face of this planet, and make this world a more peaceful place to live.
* To see India in a position better than other advanced countries like US…
* And……… To make my love d most happiest person in this world :-)

Is anyone in love with me ?
Guys.. this question is for you.
(Aaju baaju mat dekh , baat dil ki bol daal..)

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Thanking You

Hey.. I m back & thanking you all for calling me here again in this,

"Journey With Myself"

I guess everyone lost intrest but you guys made me realize that even though you never comment but you are silent member of my blog.

So.. no worries guys as i m going to rock Mumbai, Ahemdabad & Pune..

I will be having lots & pots of stories 2 share wid ya..

Till den.. miss me!

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Mujhsai Shaadi Karoge..?

I need to wake up to the fact that choosing a life partner is a decision as huge as Jupiter. And I need to find a boy who is happily excited to see me gossiping all day with him.

I have had the coffee-movie-pizza thing with friends who are boys, but in some years, I will need to find a boy whom I understand and who understands me and decides much more than which pizza to order. And finding him is not easy, considering that I think boys are indirect, complicated, get angry too fast and ask questions only to hear the answers they want.

I want a guy who respect girls, has a gud sense of humour, take care of me, has values in life & who says BIG NO to "Smoking, Drinking & Non - Veg".

So all this, and add to that a thick Gurgaon traffic and a cellphone which keeps ringing, and life gets a little jumpy for me at 22.

In a childish sort of manner, I want to ring up god and ask him “Hey, can you rewind my age by four years, I am not exactly ready for this!”, but I think he will just bang down the receiver.


But if I look at the overall stuff, I need to bring back some balance in my life. I need to ask myself some questions. I need to find some answers. How do I do that? I will figure it out right after I finish this blog.

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Me With Myself

In my Life`s Journey, I just enrolled myself in MBA Programme from ICFAI.

Actually,I couldn't do my job now without having an MBA but, on the other hand, I can't claim that I use particular skills or techniques in my job that I will learn in the MBA. It's more that it gave me a general sense of confidence and a grounding in all business areas and types of people.

Also, I m planning to invest in Share Market as Sensex is @ towering heights.
I m positively looking forward to it wen I dont know anythg abt it(lolz...).

Looking for a new job too.. (agar koi ho to batana.. itne kam paiso mai guzara nahin hota yaar!) as I have to gift a Car to my dear sweetheart & lovely MOM on her 25th Marriage Anniversary.

so much work to do & still I m writting a Blog..
k.. guys I know I know I gotta go now & start performing actions to implement plans running inside my mind..

Catch ya laters!

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Ofcourse.. love exists!

Well. We all are living in “Scientific Age” & we look for the reasons & proofs to believe on anything.

We ask, Air exists or not?

If it is then why can’t we touch it.

We get its logical answer & start believing. Right?

But have ya ever thought that if we still didn’t be able to find its existence then,

Is there no air available on this Earth?

Second thing, I am not cheating to myself & I never do.

Yes, It is true “Respect” is the building block of “Love” but that doesn`t mean that “Love” doesn`t exist.

“If I believe in love I should also have reason to believe, that without empirical evidence,things exist, like GOD.”
Well, it was a good question and one that I was not prepared to answer. Nevertheless, I was compelled by the philosophical ideas that were presented and needed to spend time thinking about how I can answer that question of LOVE.
Here is a quote that could solve a lot of problems if people lived by it:
‘You are so young, my son(and daughter), and, as the years go by, time will change and even reverse many of your present opinions. Refrain therefore awhile from setting yourself up as judge of the highest matters.’ - PLATO
How can one prove that love exists? For that matter how can one prove that any emotion, or feelings exists? Compassion, hate, fear, calm, excitement, joy, amazement, fortunate, pleased, angry, irritated, hostile, mad, violent, skeptical, lost, and the list goes on! As far as PROVING any of these, NO - you cannot. The question really should be: “Is it RATIONAL to believe that you LOVE someone or that someone LOVES you? And I would say that the answer for me is a resounding YES. It is very rational.
Love is shown in so many ways. A wink, a smile, a look, a hug, a kiss, and if you love someone more than average, it may be shown through selfless acts, sacrificial compromises, lifelong commitments, in marriage, or as a parent raising their child. This is evidential basis for a rational belief that love exists. However, evidence is open for debate and can be wrong, but in the end I believe the existence of LOVE is rational.
I believe that conversation can be cut short because of something called Faith.
What about Faith? Does that count for anything. Of course it does. I will never be able to disprove God to a man/women of Faith. That is why I don’t engage in these conversations too often, because they come to a stand still when faith comes into the conversation. I see faith as a roadblock to logical discourse, and I also understand that logical discourse doesn’t matter to most who have Faith or the other side of that.
Faith disregards any evidential type of conversation.
What does it come down to then if I can’t prove that God doesn’t exists or prove that he does? It means that for each person we must choose between a few options about the beginnings of time. (there may be more that just a few options but these are the main ones…)
1. That God exists
2. That God doesn’t exist
3. That you don’t know.
I personally believe that no one knows for sure.
It is the most honest I can be with myself. Now this obviously brings up a ton of other questions… but that part can be for later.
I look forward to hearing your response if you would be so kind.
DISCLAIMER: I reserve the right to change my beliefs, as a matter of fact, I have done so many times and that is why I am always willing to engage in conversations about GOD, the UNIVERSE and EVERYTHING at anytime.

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my thought process...

Yesterday , I was having a conversation with a friend.Since I was a part of the conversation , it was of shameful intellectual standards .I was talking about my haircut . ( I think I look cute after the haircut. I guess everyone found it cute ).

Suddenly , the talk moved onto a rather philosophical plane. Within a matter of minutes , the haircut talk developed into an animated discussion and my friend asked me this

" Have you ever thought what kind of person are you?".

I promptly coughed , murmered something useless , and then started talking about something else .The conversation ended soon after. ( Itne heavy questions poochegi to end karni hee padegi na ) . But then I got back to my room , jumped in my bed , drew my bedsheet over the eyes , stared into the darkness and thought

"What kind of person am I?"

I guess thinking about oneself once in a while clears up things , and then why should only celebrities get to talk about themselves and their favorite colors and favorite dishes ?
I talk about what I think of myself as a person .

I read it somewhere that,

"The most uncomfortable person in this world is a person who is not himself."

I tore away the page carrying this quote I went home and pasted this sheet on the wall of my room .

But over the years , I have tried to practise what this quote said . So I have learnt to listen to myself . I have learnt to develop a sense of self security so I dont need to do things which make me 'cool' or 'happening'or 'smart'.

Improvement is something that belongs to my priority list , but pretending to please your senses is not exactly on my things-to-do list. In short , I am uncool , stuck-in-old-times , and strange to a lot of people , but I have learnt to be myself .

I am beginning to understand the importance of searching for happiness in the right places . Achievements , salaries , accolades , shallow relations serve as a rocket fuel for the ego , but an ego boost is as different from happiness .

I am learning from life , that things change , people change , and clinging onto anything is selfish and useless .

Anyway , I have already destroyed every limit of self indulgance tonight by talking about myself so long , so I will wrap up now.

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Lets Start Blogging......

Myself "HETAL MEHTA" on 17-07-2007 writting a first blog of her life.. (I am saying like as if i would become SUPERCOOL Blogstar & create history someday....lolz )

Jokes apart,, I would like to tell you guys that yesterday I heard Interview of Mr. Abhinav Jain on AIR 104.8 Radio Meow in Just for Women Radio Station..he sounded quite cool & the way he described charm of Blogging in front of me,,I found it quite interesting & eventually I also decided to start writting a blog of my own..

Tthough I read blogs since last two years & but 2day something urged me and I also feel like writting with my terrible grammer...(heheheh.... ) 

hmm..so they say that Blogging help you get a release..maybe..I am still too early into it to have a say on this.

But ifIi look for the reasons why I started..
Then its just bcozz.. It is the best way to get you occupied in your free time rather then chatting & orkutting or gossips..

Actually I am just sick & tired of all this time pass now.....I found its something new & innovative way to combine "Virtuality into Reality"

I know after reading this you`ll say what the heck... but i write it just to check out my skill and I already did a great Brain Storming in deciding a name for my Blog "JOURNEY WITH MYSELF" ............so keep visiting this space and your comments are always WELCOME for this BEGINNER!!

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