How To Deal With Negativity

One of the most common questions I get asked is how to deal with a spouse, relative or close friend who has a tendency to be negative. Clearly in this situation you can’t simply walk away and spend all your time with positive people.

Imagine for a moment that your spouse, relative or friend is like a glass that is filled with a dark liquid which represents their negativity.

A lot of people try to rectify this situation by saying things like, "I really wish you’d stop being so negative all the time!"
The problem with this approach is that criticism is a form of negative energy and you are therefore adding more negativity to the situation which usually makes things worse not better.

So what’s the answer?
The answer is to pour positive energy into their glass instead!

As you continue to pour positive energy into their glass their negativity will slowly be diluted. Here are five ways to do this in the real world:
(1) Share fun and enjoyable experiences together. It is hard for people to be negative when they are having fun.
(2) Don’t dwell on negative conversations. When your spouse, relative or friend starts being negative, redirect the conversation to a less contentious topic. An effective way to do this is by asking a qustion about a new topic.
(3) Be a positive example. Continue to enjoy your life even if you initially have to do it alone. As you enjoy yourself, continually invite your spouse, relative or friend to join in the fun.
(4) Coordinate an Escape. Often negativity comes from staying in a negative environment for too long. A great way to help your spouse, relative or friend is to assist them to escape that environment on a regular basis. This can be as simple as getting out of the house and going for a walk. A complete change of scene can often act as a pressure valve and help you reconnect.
(5) Identify and Replace negative routines. Review how you spend time with your spouse, relative or friend and identify negative routines such as complaining about your job every week at Friday night drinks. Once you’ve identified a negative routine, replace it with something different to break the pattern of negativity.
At the end of the day, we all have a tendency to be negative at times and what we need at those times is someone to help lift us up rather than criticise us for being negative. Therefore the most effective way to deal with negativity is to dilute it with positive experiences and positive energy.

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Important Values in Life

Life comes with its ups and downs. Yes, we all know that. But there are certain mindsets that affect our life for the better and some that affect it for the worst. These mindsets that affect our life for the better can be called values. Whilst it stands true that all people have different values in life, there are some important values in life, that in my opinion, should be considered by all. Not because these are the values that I follow, but because it could truly make this world a better place. Here is my list of important values to have in life.

Love: The first of the most important values in life is love. It is an important personal value to open your mind to the concept of love. I don't mean this in a fairy tale kind of way. That is not the only kind of love. The way in which you love your family, and friends, you can love everybody. Love is the bringer of compassion. Once, we are led by compassion, we see the best in others, while they see the best in us. We can have more faith in the world. This will help us to refrain from being suspicious, keeping us more at ease.

Understanding: This is the second important value in life. I see a lot of people around me holding grudges and keeping tempers. They know at the back of their mind and in the depths of their heart that the other person had a reason for doing what they did. Yet, they let their anger take over. Understanding is the key to a happy mind and a caring heart. If you are ready to understand and accept people and circumstances for what they are, you can gain control over it. Understand that people are doing their best, and instead of questioning it, try to find out ways to help them out.

Respect: The third of the important values in life is respect. It is very important to have respect for people. This not only allows you to get inspired by their positive aspects, but also allows you to notice their negatives. Nobody is perfect, neither you, nor me. Respect is the only way we can adopt the best of all that is around us, in the process, making us a better person everyday, every moment. A very important fact about respect is that the more you give, the more you earn. It is in fact one of the most important values in society.

Discipline: The fourth of the important values in life is discipline. Sadly, many people confuse discipline for routine and avoid it. Well, routine is the act of doing the same thing over and over again, due to lack of opportunity or imagination. On the other hand (and far better), discipline accepts the absence of routine, on the condition of responsibility. A disciplined person will have a lot of fun, but will make sure that he completes his duties. He will go out and have a blast, but will ensure that he is back at the decided time. A disciplined and responsible person will respect his as well as other's time. As such, he will always be punctual.

Honesty: The fifth important value in life is honesty. You must be wondering why this value in mentioned at the end. Well, that is because it is the base on which the other values stand. It is the most important value to have. Honesty does not only mean telling your parents when you goofed up. Or admitting to your partner that you made a big mistake. Honesty is admitting to yourself that you are not perfect. It means avoiding to make a mistake. An honest person will try his best to not goof up, but if he does, he will not only admit it, but will willingly accept the consequences. All the other values that are mentioned need to be accepted and followed with honesty. That is the only way in which they will affect your life for the better.

Important values in life differ for different people. Nonetheless, no matter which culture you belong to, certain values help make your life a whole lot better. These are the values that I have known and followed throughout my life.

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Top 20 Countries With Best Quality of Life

Magazine “Quality of Life Index” measures 194 countries ranked and rated to reveal the best places to live. They make this list using nine different categories like Cost of Living, Culture and Leisure, Economy, Environment, Freedom, Health, Infrastructure, Safety and Risk, and Climate. After this they collates all results to produce final rankings. Lets see  according to 2010 results what are the top 20 best quality of life countries!

20. Hungary

Cost of Living – 58 Leisure & Culture – 76 Economy – 48 Environment – 77 Freedom – 100 Health – 84 Infrastructure – 77 Risk & Safety – 93 Climate – 76 Final Score – 74

19. Uruguay

Cost of Living – 60 Leisure & Culture – 72 Economy – 52 Environment – 72 Freedom – 100 Health – 76 Infrastructure – 64 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 93 Final Score – 75

18. Finland

Cost of Living – 39 Leisure & Culture – 93 Economy – 66 Environment – 68 Freedom – 100 Health – 81 Infrastructure – 76 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 76 Final Score – 75

17. Spain

Cost of Living – 56 Leisure & Culture – 68 Economy – 63 Environment – 75 Freedom – 100 Health – 90 Infrastructure – 65 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 79 Final Score – 76

16. Denmark

Cost of Living – 33 Leisure & Culture – 88 Economy – 69 Environment – 84 Freedom – 100 Health – 86 Infrastructure – 72 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 78 Final Score – 76

15. Malta

Cost of Living – 63 Leisure & Culture – 70 Economy – 53 Environment – 84 Freedom – 100 Health – 89 Infrastructure – 52 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 95 Final Score – 76

14. Liechtenstein

Cost of Living – 44 Leisure & Culture – 80 Economy – 100 Environment – 65 Freedom – 100 Health – 80 Infrastructure – 44 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 79 Final Score – 76

13. Austria

Cost of Living – 41 Leisure & Culture – 86 Economy – 68 Environment – 87 Freedom – 100 Health – 85 Infrastructure – 68 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 76 Final Score – 77

12. Norway

Cost of Living – 39 Leisure & Culture – 60 Economy – 89 Environment – 76 Freedom – 100 Health – 90 Infrastructure  – 89 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 60 Final Score – 77

11. Netherlands

Cost of Living – 48 Leisure & Culture – 71 Economy – 69 Environment – 67 Freedom – 100 Health – 87 Infrastructure – 92 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 75 Final Score – 77

10. Italy

Cost of Living – 56 Leisure & Culture – 85 Economy – 63 Environment – 74 Freedom – 92 Health – 90 Infrastructure – 62 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 87 Final Score – 77

9. Canada

Cost of Living – 62 Leisure & Culture – 76 Economy – 69 Environment – 62 Freedom – 100 Health – 84 Infrastructure     85 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 69 Final Score – 77

8. Belgium

Cost of Living – 41 Leisure & Culture – 83 Economy – 66 Environment – 64 Freedom – 100 Health – 88 Infrastructure – 96 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 86 Final Score – 78

7. United States

Cost of Living – 56 Leisure & Culture – 79 Economy – 67 Environment – 62 Freedom – 92 Health – 78 Infrastructure – 100 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 84 Final Score – 78

6. Luxembourg

Cost of Living – 44 Leisure & Culture – 76 Economy – 85 Environment – 77 Freedom – 100 Health – 87 Infrastructure – 66 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 83 Final Score – 78

5. New Zealand

Cost of Living – 62 Leisure & Culture – 82 Economy – 65 Environment – 77 Freedom – 100 Health – 88 Infrastructure – 70 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 84 Final Score – 79

4. Germany

Cost of Living – 54 Leisure & Culture – 82 Economy – 71 Environment – 83 Freedom – 100 Health – 89 Infrastructure – 90 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 79 Final Score     81

3. Switzerland

Cost of Living – 41 Leisure & Culture  – 86 Economy – 79 Environment – 78 Freedom – 100 Health – 95 Infrastructure – 96 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 77 Final Score – 81

2. Australia

Cost of Living – 56 Leisure & Culture – 82 Economy – 71 Environment – 76 Freedom – 100 Health – 87 Infrastructure – 92 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 87 Final Score – 81

1. France

Cost of Living – 55 Leisure & Culture  -  81 Economy – 69 Environment – 72 Freedom – 100 Health – 100 Infrastructure – 92 Risk & Safety – 100 Climate – 87 Final Score – 82

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Spiritz & More: Win Mettalica Concert passes

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Win Samsung Galaxy Note for free. Particpate now.

Samsung Galaxy Note is about to get launched on 2nd Nov 2011..

So before it gets released , you gotta a chance to win the cool smartphone..

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Free Online Games

The games on website http://www.freeonlinegames.com/ require Macromedia Flash AND Shockwave plug-in players. This software enables you to play flash games on your computer. It only takes a minute to download this software, which you can do so clicking on the following link (please ensure you download the appropiate file for your browser): http://www.adobe.com/shockwave/download/alternates
Games on this website is 100% free. You do not have to register on  website and pay for anything.

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Emotional Hardship

If you are drowning in toxic emotions, it is very difficult for you to imagine what it would be like to feel free from the pain of emotional suffering. It is this emotional suffering that causes you to experience life in a way that becomes extremely limiting. It blocks your ability to reignite the feeling of hope and the faith that a brighter future is possible.

Make today your day to create a critical shift in your life and break free of the emotional suffering that is holding you back from experiencing a fulfilling life.
 

• Stop that overwhelming feeling of not being able to cope with life
• Stop those constant negative thoughts
• Stop the bombardment of negative thinking
• Stop the constant mind chatter that blocks mental clarity
• Stop that constant feeling of not being worthy enough
• Stop that constant feeling of failure and disappointments
• Stop that constant feeling of misery and suffering
• Stop that constant feeling of sorrow and grief
• Stop that constant feeling of isolation and loneliness

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Try & find some colors in this black and white world

Promise yourself to be strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind;
to talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet;
to make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them;
to look at the sunny side of everything and to make your optimism come true,
to think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best;
to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own;
to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future;

to wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet;
to give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others;

to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble;
to think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds;
to live in the faith that the whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

CHEATERS NEVER GET WHAT THEY WANT. All they do is bring pain and suffereing upon themselves.
Then years later they tell you that cheating on you was the stupidest thing they ever did and carry heavy baggae of guilt.

If someone has cheated on you,then it basically makes you feel like you meant nothing to them or weren't good enough.
The only thing you can do is move on. You were loyal to that person and trusted that person and they betrayed that trust.
Sometimes you just have to walk away. That's easier said than done.
NEVER go out with someone who has cheated on his or her partner with you.
Just because they cheated with you doesnt mean they won't do it again. It just means they're getting better at it.
Cheating isn't the problem, it's the result of the problem(s)

Moral : B happy anyways & keep telling your self - All izz Well

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