I think you should look at internet dating not as a prospective husband/wife hunt but as an effort to make a lot of friends, and I mean good friends. Friends that you can laugh with, friends who make you laugh. Not everyone can make us laugh, and when I say laugh, I am not talking about some comedian. I am talking about friends here.
Friends make your life richer. The best thing about friends is that you can be yourself with them and they can be themselves with you. And that means letting it all out. Remember, that besides being your husband or wife, your spouse should be your best friend as well.
That is one mistake that most couples make. They tend to look upon their friends and their spouses as separate. While it is perfectly ok to have your own friends, your best friend should always be your husband or wife.
They should be someone you can share your dreams and fears with, someone who understands, someone who can give your hand a gentle squeeze when things go wrong and someone who can brighten up your darkest day.
All this is a very far cry from sex right? That is why I did mention earlier that looks and sex should be the last criteria in the selection of a life partner. The marriage proposal must come as a natural sequence and it should by no means be the first thing that comes out as soon as you warm up to a person. You cannot very well say something like, “hey, you know what, I think we have the same tastes so let’s get married.”
I hope you have got the hang of what I meant by working backwards now? Good. You are ready to move on now.
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the first thing comes in my mind when i read it "bahut achha likha hain yaar", awesome thoughts.
aur yein wala para to bahut hi achaa hain..."That is one mistake that most couples make. They tend to look upon their friends and their spouses as separate. While it is perfectly ok to have your own friends, your best friend should always be your husband or wife."
clapping for u:)
hmm......nice thought
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