Thursday, November 8, 2007

More Than Looks

Sit for a minute or two and try and think about the things that interest you and things that you would find interesting in a person.

By ‘things’ over here I am not referring to physical attributes. I am not referring to something that might interest you in a person’s physical appearance. Again the distinction has to be drawn between a serious relationship and a casual relationship. In a casual relationship, you are usually more concerned with what the person looks like.

On the other hand, if you have a serious relationship, then the physical qualities are not so important. Compatibility is probably the most important factor over here. Along with that there are certain other qualities that obviously you will be looking out for. After all, beauty is only skin deep!

This idea might sound strange, but it is actually true. The idea is that it is possible to grow to like the looks of a person. Once you find the character of the person agreeable you will start liking the person as a whole. It is entirely possible to fall in love with a person if the person does not look like a movie star. That is one of the tricks that nature plays.

There are many people who insist on taking a look at the other person’s picture before actually committing to a relationship. They might have their reasons of course, but I, for one, feel that such a decision based largely on looks is more suitable for a casual relationship. It is bound to fizzle out after a while. After all, how long can you keep staring at a person? And what happens if the person doesn’t stare back at you?

Or even worse, what happens if you find the person staring at another person? Looks may be important, but they certainly are not the most important thing and should never be used as the deciding factor if you are thinking about a serious relationship.

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yes looks doesn't matter the really thing is wat type the person is n their nature.i m feeling comfortable while talking or wenever i share my feeling wid her/him.He/she understands my feeling or only making fun of mine,all depend. we alwaz see dats in frnd class mostly all r different ofcourse kuch sunder nahi bhi hote group mein phir bhi dil ke karib ho jate hai kyu becoz of her/his nature. so looks doesn't matter dil ki freq. jahaa match wahi dil ke karib aa jate hai.

I m totally agree with u,,, If we have a serious relationship then physique doesnt matter. I knw its also truth that " aakhein dil ka sheesha hoti hain/beauty lives in eyes etc etc ""
But more than that looks doent matter very much I feel understanding is the much more important then physical qualities... Seema is 1 of my bestest frnd. Our frndship started through a blog in last year ( November ). we never ever see each other... dont knw how she/I looks, but still we r best frnd,, we understand each other very very much..... We shared lots of lots of things and feels very very comfortable and relaxed each and every time infact just Hi/Hello is enough to knw that how is she and Vice versa ,,, Bina dekhe hi sab kuch express ho jaata hai. So, its doesnt matter that how u looks, wats the face colour bas mann saaf hona chahiye ...If u r a very very very good human being u r the most beautiful person of this beautiful world..